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The practice of gratitude has so many wonderful benefits

  1. It makes us much happier. A Benedictine monk, David Steindl-Rast has said: it is not joy that makes us grateful, it is gratitude that makes us joyful. When we become good at being grateful, we see and experience more of the good in life, no matter what our circumstances.
  1. It keeps us much healthier. Practising gratitude is associated with better sleep, less depression, and less stress. It reduces headaches, sore muscles, stomach pain, nausea, coughing, and sore throats. Those who practise gratitude report less illness, and generally feel healthier.
  1. It reduces negative emotions. Feelings like anger, bitterness, and resentment are incompatible with gratitude. The more gratitude we cultivate, the less negativity we feel.
  1. We cope better. Learning to see the good in our lives even when hard times come is a powerful coping strategy.
  1. It increases our self worth. Practising gratitude helps us get out of the ‘poor me’ mindset, and into the habit of looking for the good. It helps to reduce negative comparisons with other people, and pay more attention to what we have versus what we don’t.
  1. It increases life’s meaning. When we can see all the beautiful pieces of our lives, it’s a lot easier to see the greater whole. Cultivating a sense of gratitude helps life feel more meaningful. The more gratitude we express, the more life’s meaning will increase.
  1. It helps us enjoy our work more. People who practice gratitude can find the good in anything. This helps work feel more meaningful and enjoyable. It can help us find our life’s purpose.
  1. It improves our relationships. When we recognise and express gratitude to and for others, it helps us to feel more connected to them, and experience better relationships. We then feel less lonely and depressed, and more pleasant to be around.
  1. It improves our parenting skills. When we are able to cope better, feel better, and find more joy and meaning in life, we will be better parents. We will recognise the good in our children, express it to them, and that will improve their self worth, health, and happiness.

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Practices for cultivating gratitude

The practices for cultivating gratitude make gratitude a habit, and we can then begin to change the emotional tone of our lives, creating more space for joy and connection with others. There are a number of exercises that help us cultivate gratitude.

1. Count your blessings: Some days it feels like everything is going wrong. But often, even on bad days, good things happen too. We are just less likely to notice them. This is where the ‘3 good things’ practice comes in. This practice involves spending 5 to 10 minutes at the end of each day writing in detail about three things that went well that day, large or small, and also describing why you think they happened. This simple practice is effective because it not only helps you remember and appreciate good things that happened in the past, but it can also help you to notice and savour positive events as they happen in the moment, and remember them more vividly later on. You begin to see a broad ecosystem of goodness around you.

Another exercise is to keep a gratitude journal which involves writing down up to 5 things for which you are grateful once a week, and reflecting on what these things mean to you. The gratitude journal is especially effective when you focus on specific people you’re grateful to have, or have had, in your life.

2. Mental Subtraction: In the words of Joni Mitchell,’You don’t know what you’ve got till its gone’. The Mental Subtraction of Positive Events practice involves considering the many ways in which important, positive events in your life, such as a job opportunity, or educational achievement, could have never taken place, and then reflecting on what your life would have been without them. Mental subtraction can counteract the tendency to take positive events for granted and see them as inevitable. It helps you recognise how fortunate you are that things transpired as they did.

3. Savour: Have you ever noticed that the first bite of cake is usually the best? We have a tendency to adapt to pleasurable things, and appreciate them less and less over time. We can interrupt this process by temporarily giving up pleasurable activities, and then coming back to them later, this time with greater anticipation and excitement. The goal of this practice is not only to experience more pleasure, but to recognise how we take lots of pleasures for granted, and to try and savour them more. We often assume that more is better and that the greatest enjoyment comes from abundance and indulgence, but research suggests that some degree of scarcity and restraint is more conducive to happiness.

4. Say ‘thank you’: Gratitude is especially powerful when it is expressed to others. Small gestures of appreciation, such as thank you notes can make a difference, but there are some things that deserve more than a fleeting thanks.

Writing a thoughtful, detailed gratitude letter is a great way to increase your own feelings of gratitude and happiness, while also making the other person feel appreciated and valued. It will also deepen your relationship with them. The benefits are the greatest when the letter is read to the person rather than mailed to them.

Finally, it is important to remember that these activities need to be practised regularly in order for our happiness levels to go up permanently, and for us to enjoy the wonderful benefits of gratitude all through our lives.

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A wonderful meeting with Mr LK Advani

As always, it was wonderful to meet Mr LK Advani, the tallest leader of the ruling party BJP, along with my remarkable high school toppers and team members. Mr Advani was delighted to meet with the students and congratulated them for their exceptional achievements. His continued support over the past many years is as humbling as it is inspiring.

Whilst Asha’s high school toppers shared their journey so far, Mr Advani encouraged them with instances from his own life. He told the students about his early years, his hardships, and spoke freely about some of his challenges. He had wonderful words of encouragement for each student, and wished them well for the future. He offered them his best hospitality as well. “You have made yourselves proud, your families proud, Asha proud, and our entire nation proud. You are a wonderful example for our country,” he said admiring the students’ achievements.

The students we thrilled at such a great opportunity!

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Heroism as a universal attribute of human nature

My new thoughts at this time are leading me in the direction of trying to understand what true heroism is. We often think of heroes as those who might have performed a one time act of bravery. I would like to distinguish this from lifelong heroism, that can become a way of life.

What wonderful examples of true heroism are our students! In the midst of the filth, the squalor, and the noise of the slum, with no one in the family to mentor them, they have confronted their challenges head on. They have fought bravely for success, unflinching in their determination, and with belief in their abilities. They have displayed the kind of courage that almost defies imagination in the face of such daunting circumstances. Many have encountered failure on the way, but have not given up. And imagine doing that with so much tenacity, so much fortitude, with such a bright spirit!

It is no wonder that they are reaching such great heights, from rummaging in garbage to white collar jobs in some of the world’s best known institutions. And what’s more, as Asha Ambassadors, these students are determined to share their wisdom with hundreds of younger students in their communities. They have opened up their tiny slum homes to coach, to mentor, to guide and to help in every possible manner.

I see them all the time, casting off the few personal comforts they have, for the welfare of others. I see them showing compassion and kindness, specially to the younger students who are in distress. Once they take up responsibilities, they dedicate themselves wholeheartedly and with utmost sincerity. In spite of living in such deep poverty, often not having enough to buy a bus fare, they are people of integrity and strong moral principles.

On my birthday, I pay tribute to these, our true heroes. I also pay tribute to my team that is filled with true heroes- visionaries, strong leaders, people of courage and bravery, sacrifice and determination.

I’d like to end by saying that the decision to act heroically is a choice. Heroism is a universal attribute of human nature. It is not a feature of a few heroic elect, but is something that is in the range of possibilities for every person.

Perhaps we can all be inspired to answer the call of heroism?

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Anniversary Wishes to Shri LK Advani

It was my pleasure to meet with Shri L.K Advani on the auspicious occasion of his 50th wedding anniversary on 25th February 2015.

Sir, on behalf of the entire Asha family I send you and Mrs Kamla Advani our warmest congratulations and best wishes on your golden wedding anniversary. Over half-a-century you have enjoyed a close companionship through the thick and thin of life, which indeed is very special.

Wishing you many more blessed years of togetherness!

On this happy occasion, I would also like to thank Shri Advani for promising to chair an Asha event in March to celebrate the academic excellence of students from the slums. We look forward to host you, Sir!

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Experiential Consumption vs Material Consumption

When we are on our death bed, we never wish we had bought more material possessions. We often wish we had more experiences. People talk more about their experiences than their material possessions. Material gratification goes down very quickly, whereas experiential gifts last much longer. There are so many rich and beautiful stories that come from experiences. They become a bigger part of who we are. They connect us more to others.

In fact, we are the sum total of our experiences. Whenever we look back and think of what we are grateful for, we find that we are always more grateful for experiences than we are for our material possessions.

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The health benefits of the practice of gratitude, and ways to practise gratitude

Following on from my previous reflection on the power of gratitude, I would like to share my thoughts on the health benefits of gratitude. The consistent practice of gratitude has remarkable effects on our health and longevity. We have a much better sense of well being, much lower anxiety and depression levels, and higher levels of optimism. We also feel much more socially connected, and much less likely to be angry. Our sleep quality is much better. Our resting Blood Pressure is lower. Rigorous scientific research has demonstrated that our levels of good cholesterol (HDL) are raised, and those of bad cholesterol (LDL) go down. Furthermore, our Serum Creatinine levels are also kept low, keeping our kidneys in good shape.

One of the best ways to practise gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal. You can write 5 things you are grateful for every day, and then notice the effects on your health and happiness levels over time. In fact, you can decide to do this as a family, and keep gratitude lists together. You can also write a gratitude letter to someone who means a lot to you. Kids can be encouraged to write gratitude letters to their teachers or mentors. I think it’s very powerful when you go to the person and read out the letter you have written. When you do this, it establishes a meaningful social connection, and that leads to an experience of joy. With kids, you can encourage them to tell you three things they are grateful for every night before they go to bed. Throughout the day, they will keep thinking of the things they are going to talk about.

The practice of gratitude is therefore a skill that can be acquired through training, and yields wonderful results!

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Meeting with Mr Arun Jaitley

Asha Student Ambassador Usha and I were honoured to meet the Hon’ble Finance Minister of India, Mr Arun Jaitley on Saturday, 17 January. I introduced him to the work of Asha, particularly the Financial Inclusion and Higher Education programmes, and how they have impacted thousands of individuals over the years. Usha also explained her background and achievements, and said that she represented thousands of Asha students with similar backgrounds as she stood before him. She presented him with a gift on behalf of all the students that was graciously accepted by him.

We also invited him to be the Chief Guest at Asha’s Celebration of Learning 2015, to which he agreed. Mr Jaitley promised all help and support, and it was decided that the function would be held in either March or April 2015. His office would soon be in touch with a proposed date.

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A Meeting with Mr LK Advani

Along with an Asha student Usha, I had the joy of meeting one of the tallest leaders of the ruling party, BJP, Mr LK Advani this morning. Usha and I conveyed him New Year greetings on behalf of the entire Asha family. One of India’s greatest and most highly respected statesmen, Mr Advani has been an elected Member of Parliament for the past six decades. He is a prolific writer and blogger, putting down his thoughts with great lucidity and clarity on a vast variety of subjects. He has been a loyal supporter of Asha for the past 12 years, and is a constant source of encouragement to us all.

Meeting with LK Advani

Thank you Sir for making the time to see us and for the presentation of a signed copy of your book ‘My Take’ to Usha. We are eagerly looking forward to your presence at an Asha event in March.

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